Fancy something new? Want to try out what it's like to be helplessly tied up and spoilt by your partner? Or have bondage games been part of your sex life for a long time? Whether you're a newbie or an old hand, everyone will find the right toys and accessories for extensive bondage games of all kinds here. Not so long ago, bondage was still completely unknown to many people as an erotic practice, but today most people are familiar with it, not least thanks to the book "Fifty Shades of Grey" and the films made about it. However, bondage has numerous facets that can be experienced in different ways depending on individual desire and personal feelings. For some people, bondage is less a form of sex and more a form of body art that is performed at events and depicted in photography.
However, bondage can also be used as foreplay for a hot night or practised during lovemaking. When one partner completely surrenders to the other, it is a very intimate and erotic form of sexual encounter. One of the partners takes the lead and the active part, while the other surrenders completely. He is restrained with ropes, handcuffs or leather cuffs so that he can no longer move. This is followed by play with spring ticklers, nipple clamps or whips. Those who want to give up control completely can also have their eyes blindfolded with a mask or silk ribbon. It is important that the partners agree on a so-called safeword to stop the game if the tied partner no longer feels comfortable. If the safeword is used, the game must be ended immediately. Of course, it takes a lot of trust in your partner if you leave yourself completely at their mercy without having any influence over what happens. Bondage visibly and physically increases the power and control of the dominant partner. The submissive partner can let themselves go completely and experience an intense feeling of relinquishing all control over their own body. This can be very fulfilling and arousing for those who enjoy this idea.
Ropes or handcuffs?
There are numerous aids that can be used for restraint and bondage. If you just want to restrain your partner, handcuffs or straps made of leather or plastic are suitable for securing hands or feet to the bed or other devices. These are also the safest, as they can be released quickly in an emergency. They are therefore also suitable for beginners. Ropes can also be used to tie your partner up skilfully, although this requires a little more experience and instruction. To ensure that knots come undone quickly, you need to practise tying them. The aesthetic aspect is a little more in the foreground here, and there are even courses where rope bondage is taught. Beginners usually use plastic or cotton ropes, while more experienced users often prefer hemp ropes. Cloths and ribbons can also be used to tie up your partner. Scarves, leather straps or latex are often used, but you can also try special bondage tape. Some prefer steel chains, spreader bars and other metal devices, although these feel less cosy. The hardness and coldness of the material is the special attraction for some. Those who like it a little harder may like to feel the cold steel on their skin. The unyielding material awakens special sensations and gives an extra kick.Carrots and sex toys
There are no limits to your own imagination. In addition to the crop, canes, paddles and floggers are available as percussion instruments for the gentler version. Whips are available in all kinds of variants, for example with a swatter, made of fibreglass or steel. For professionals, there are elasticated bullwhips. If you like, you can also stimulate your bound partner with various sex toys. A vibrator or an anal plug are ideal. If you like, you can put a collar on your partner and lead them on a leash. You can also experiment with candle wax. Special BDSM candles give off a slightly cooler wax than normal household candles and do not cause burns. The greater the height from which you let it drip, the faster it cools down. When scraping off the wax, however, you should cover everything well, otherwise the wax will spread everywhere.More than just bondage
Many women and some men secretly want to be dominated during sex. The feeling of being at the mercy of your partner, of having to surrender to their will without being able to determine what happens to you is a pleasurable idea for many people. However, bondage is often just the introduction to a larger world, the world of BDSM. The B in BDSM stands for Bondage, D for Discipline, SM for Sadism and Masochism. "DS" can also be understood as dominance and submission. BDSM therefore includes other aspects and variations in addition to bondage. Basically, it is always about submission and dominance, about a "top" or "dom" who dominates and the "sub" or "bottom" who obeys. The distribution of roles is of course arbitrary, both men and women can be top or sub. Discipline refers to the "education" of the "sub", i.e. he or she receives instructions and is rewarded or punished depending on how they are carried out. Sadism and masochism describe the pleasure of inflicting pain and the pleasure of feeling pain. Dominance and submission do not have to be accompanied by pain, but can also be exercised without physical chastisement. For example, the top can give instructions and set tasks that must be followed. The other partner voluntarily submits to the top's wishes and follows the instructions.Such instructions can be, for example
- Kneel down!
- Bend over!
- Undress slowly!
- Get the handcuffs!
If the sub does not carry out the instructions correctly or refuses, then a pleasurable punishment follows. This can take the form of asking him to do something that he doesn't really like or that the top particularly enjoys. However, he should not lose interest in the game, so don't overdo it!
The punishment can look like this:- Five slaps on the bum
- Fetching a glass of water with tied hands
- Doing the washing up naked
There are no limits to your imagination. If you like, you can come up with punishments using various sex toys, such as anal plugs. For some, these are already part of the harder BDSM style. For most, soft BDSM remains the highest of feelings. Here, the risk of injury is not so high and the focus is on having fun.